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Kept in the Dark

I stopped by a furniture store this week to pick up a new desk chair.  As I was checking out, there was a sign behind the cashier that announced that you could “win a $1000 shopping spree.”  I asked the cashier how I could win and he went from smiling and happy to down with a visible loss of energy.  He said to me “to be honest ma’am, that sign was here when I came in this morning, but no one told me what it’s about.  We are too busy to leave the cash registers to find out, so I’ve looked stupid all day because I can’t tell customers how to enter.”

Management often expects employee’s to be proactive, but if you don’t follow through and make sure they have the ability to be proactive, then it is the same as purposefully keeping people in the dark.  If management has implemented something new, then it is management’s responsibility to inform staff of what is new and how it will affect them.  Employee’s need time to learn and ask questions.  They deal with customers on a day to day basis and will likely know the types of questions that customers will ask.

Keeping employees informed is not limited to new things for customers.  Managers need to ask “What is new?” and “Who else needs to know about this?”  Then they need to get out there and inform staff.  Small efforts such as this add up to big results in motivation and performance.  Employees want to do the right thing and they want to be informed, but they also need management to clear the way so they can. If employees don’t get the communication they need, it just adds to the GarbageFactor™.

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Don’t forget the “d”

Just read a story about a woman who works with a manager that screams, storms around, disciplines & mocks people publicly, and frequently uses threats as part of her management technique arsenal.  Apparently upper management and human resources have been made aware of this garbage.  I don’t know their excuse, but it sounds like this manager doesn’t know the difference between “shrew” and “shrewd.”

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Must Be Nice

Friday’s were usually Tom’s only day in the office, and typically, he’d work just a half day since he’d already put in so many hours earlier in the week.  Tom had one of those jobs that looked glamorous, but wasn’t.  He traveled every week, often to a different city every day.  His schedule was grueling.  Give presentations all day, drive to the next city, get some dinner, snag some sleep, and start over again the next day.

Though he worked in St. Louis, only one team mate, Mimi, worked with him there.  The rest of his team was in Chicago.  Another division was also located in St. Louis, so he and Mimi both had an office (cubicle) there to go on Friday’s.  Inevitably, the division manager would find a way to tease Tom when he was in the office “must be nice only having to come into the office only one day a week and then make that a half day.  We should all be so lucky.”

Mimi witnessed this for about a year.  She supported Tom and gave him ideas on how to deal with (or let go of) the situation, but Tom kept letting it get under his skin.  Tom was promoted and moved out of that office.  The search began, but the division manager wasn’t waiting.  The very next time that Mimi ran into him, he said to her “must be nice only having to come into the office only one day a week.  Wish I had that job.”

Mimi excitedly replied “You can! We have an opening right now that you can apply for!”  Everyone laughed and the division manager never picked on Mimi again.

Sometimes the best way to get rid of a little garbage is to use a little wit and humor.  Instead of battling people to prove your point, try going in the same direction.

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Bad Attitude in Three Short Stories

I just found these stories.  I’d saved it under a title that I’m sure made sense at the time, but upon recall, it made me think it was a different document.

Background – all three of these encounters happen the same morning, in the same building, for the same organization.

Scene 1 – I arrive to teach a seminar about Flex Spending Accounts.  My mood is set, I feel great because I’m speaking and training today.  I’m especially pumped because I love the thrill of applying my inspirational approach to financial matters that people expect to be boring (I have a financial services background).  I enter the building and check in with security.  A guard takes me to my first encounter.

In introduce myself to the leader who looks put out.  She starts by treating me like I am a criminal or have done something wrong.  Angrily she says:  “I don’t know who you are!”  She didn’t hide that she was annoyed and put out.  She next challenged me as though I was lying “who sent you here?  Who are you supposed to see?  I thought this was Insurance, nobody told me you are here!”  What’s flex spending?!

Scene 2 – The insurance rep and I (we’d both been invited by the main office) were in a conference room to answer questions one-on-one.  The first employee that the Insurance rep (we were both scheduled for the day) had to deal with wanted the rep to make the changes for her.  The rep didn’t have a laptop with her and the employee got snippy “your website doesn’t work!”  The rep tried to verbally get the woman to come back to find out what the problem was.  The woman was determined to be a snot and turned her back on the rep and walked out ignoring the pleas of the insurance rep to try to identify the problem to fix it.

Scene 3 – It is lunch time and I am in the employee cafeteria.  Across the table from me is a woman who’s just sat down with her lunch.  “This is a hamburger without the bun!!!”  She was angry, you could tell she felt cheated.  “They call this a patty melt!  What the hell is that?!  It’s a hamburger without the bun.  By law this is a hamburger with no bun, everybody knows that!”  She slams her food around looking hateful and angry.

This is the GarbageFactor™ in toxic doses.  This whole building needs to be wrapped in a quarantine tent and a dose of attitude adjustment pumped in.  Seriously folks, I’m sure many of you have worked in an environment like this, but what makes me so passionate about this one is that it was an elementary school.  The “leader” was the school principal.  The other two scenes were with teachers.  This is crazy.  No one should have to work with people with attitudes this bad, never mind subject our kids to it.

I have an assignment today.  Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are behaving like one of these people.  If you are, find out what the cause is.  This is beyond bad attitude, this is toxic behavior.  If you need to get out, find a new job as fast as you can.  If you need a break, take it.  If you need to learn how to deal with the problem, take a seminar.  If you need a shrink, find one.  Whatever you do, take some positive action because everyone around you is being infected and you won’t be able to break the cycle of negativity until you do something different.

If you’re working in this kind of environment, your solutions are the same.  If you need to get out, find a new job as fast as you can.  If you need a break, take it.  If you need to learn how to deal with the problem, take a seminar or read a book (mine is a great pick http://shop.marianmadonia.com).  If you need a shrink, find one.

Whatever you do, take some positive action because everyone around you is being infected and you won’t be able to break the cycle of negativity until you do something different.  If you are in a leadership position and this describes your environment, don’t go it alone if you’re not trained in turning this type of situation around.  Bring in a consultant who specializes in workplace relationships (I know a few, so let me know if you need a referral).  If you think a seminar or program would help, that’s my specialty (check out my video’s at http://youtube.com/marianmadonia).  And if you need it, contact an arbitrator to help resolve conflict in specific relationships.

We all want to work in a job that has as little garbage as possible.  What can you do today to reduce it?

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No More Garbage Tip #2 – Stuck?

When you don’t know what to do, you won’t until you learn something new.  Use a lack of answers as a trigger to go learn something new so that you can find the answers.  Don’t know how to pay for your kid’s education?  Learn everything you can about financing college.  Having trouble with a relationship?  Learn everything that you can about dealing with people and communicating.  Having trouble with a boss?  Learn how to deal with difficult people.

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Entrepreneurship & Self Employment Look Better and Better

It’s nice to have a doctor give authority to the situation, but we all know that a stressful job is killing us.  We just didn’t have the statistics for it.

What I want to know is why aren’t workplaces doing anything about this?  Maybe we’ve had this all wrong.  We keep reporting to human resources when we have an issue with a boss.  In an exit interview, we MAY tell human resources the truth about why we left.  Maybe we need to change how we report this type of thing.  Maybe we need to report to OSHA.  After all, if the stress in the workplace is killing us, that makes the workplace hazardous and we need to be protected.  Right on OSHA’s website the first link is “Report Possible Hazards in the Workplace.”  (http://osha.gov/) With a 50% increase in cardiovascular disease due to a stressful boss, we may have a case.

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